What Does It Mean When a Man Says He Wants to Be Left Alone

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posted nine years agone

When guys say the desire to be left alone do they really mean it?

I call up a lot of girls are like me, when I say I don't want to talk to anybody, I usually do desire to talk to someone.  Is it unlike for men?

Men generally mean what they say.
Very rarely does a guy say the opposite of what he wants. We likewise don't commonly drop "hints" either when we practise want something. :-)

I think it is important in a relationship to have someone's give-and-take. If my husband says he wants to be left solitary, then he volition exist left solitary. But he also knows that if he needs me or wants to talk, I will stop whatever I am doing so we can talk.

People should say what they mean and not play games. If I tell someone I want to exist left lonely, then I practise. If I need someone, I volition reach out. We can't expect people to read our minds.  Say what y'all mean and hateful what y'all say.

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MickS posted 9 years ago

If a man asks a woman for sex , and she says, 'no,' does she really mean information technology? I call up you will find the answer is the same.

Having 6 brothers, I would say when guys say they want to exist left alone they mean it. I take to admit, though, I usually mean it when I say it too. Perhaps that is the consequence from having grown up around so many boys.

When I say it I hateful information technology, but I am a girl. My husband NEVER means it, just I would not know until after. He would say, why did you leave, just after telling me to go.

At present hither is the reality of it, most... all my friends and family unit say that I am extremely manly and when I dated manly guys in the past, I hated them because we would both hateful what nosotros say. There would be no comfort, no softness in the relationship. My hubby is feminine and I needed that balance in my life.

Lesser line ninety% of guys mean exactly what they say, the space allows them to clear their heads and that is the only fashion that they tin can talk to y'all without saying something stupid. I take 4 older brothers and I am a tom boy... what I am proverb is near fact

You should understand that a human does not open out as easily equally a woman. When he is  facing any problems he likes to be alone every bit he is  vulnerable at that time and he does not want you to see his emotional upheaval.

I am utterly perplexed by women who say one thing while meaning another. Information technology makes no sense to me... I am a adult female, and an introvert, and when I tell someone to leave me alone information technology's probably all-time they do so. That being said I have ever gotten along better with men than women because my encephalon seems to work more than similarly. I would have their give-and-take for it and go chill somewhere else for awhile if 1 of them told me to leave them alone.

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Just Nate posted nine years ago

Aye, when a guy says he wants to be left solitary, that means exactly what he says. Men don't often call up one affair but practice some other as ladies do, lol.

When a guy doesn't want to talk, he means information technology.  They are not much on talking or showing emotion, if you insist on making him talk, he volition just get mad, and then will you.

Since im a guy, i would say yeah. Men unremarkably means what they say. This is why when a guy say that a certain human relationship is over, it is actually over. On the other hand, as what i accept observed, when a adult female say its over in a relationship, in that location is still a proficient chance that his decision could be inverse.

I certainly mean it when I say it.
I really don't open up up all that much when I have something that I don't want to talk about.
I require my alone time,,, just it drives my girlfriend crazy.

In short...yes.  Men, unlike women, sometimes need space and if you invade that space, it just irritates and upsets them.

My hubby says what he means. If he needs space to be solitary, and so I give him space. I too have moments when I need space to be alone. I may say I don't want anyone to talk to, but once I calm down (nearly times inside about 15 mins!) I am ready to talk and will seek out someone. My advice is take the words literally and leave the door open up for conversation should the time arrive that talking is needed.

Yeah. When a homo says he wants to exist left alone it's because he actually really wants to be left alone. What a lot of us girls need to understand is that men are human beings with complex thoughts and emotions just similar us--just their means of dealing with the aforementioned things tin can be completely different than ours.

I can't speak for all men, simply I sure every bit heck do! Alone fourth dimension is very important to me.

Your boyfriend tells you to "leave him lone" and y'all don't believe what he says. "He doesn't hateful it," you lot say to yourself which causes you lot to phone call him consistently and possible fifty-fifty become over to his house unannounced. As a effect, he doesn't answer... read more

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KEPitz posted ix years ago

Yes, the guy ways information technology. Men'due south brains work way differently than women's brains, so you're able to have most of what they say at face value. (But my opinion later a half a century on this planet observing people!)

A lot of girls volition say the same sentence twice and mean completely different things in each case. Y'all've probably said you don't want to talk to anybody and meant it at least once.

Guys are not that weird. When we're overcome with a strong emotion our full general "translation guy to daughter" way is off which ways nosotros don't sugarcoat what we say.

to the point: if a guy is angry/sad/etc. enough that he says he wants to exist left alone in a serious tone...leave him solitary.

i recall men are more frank and existent than women.  I believe when men say they want to be left alone, they really mean it or if they say they don't desire to exist with y'all anymore, they really don't desire y'all or to encounter your face up whatsoever longer.

Information technology'southward quite different for men. When a human being says he needs to exist alone, he about definitely ways it. To rejuvenate and refresh, men retreat into a 'cave,' either physically or figuratively. With no interference from others, a man needing cave time will quite likely emerge ready to tackle anything! Being patient with the procedure, a wise woman will find this is a win-win proposition, while nurturing a prophylactic atmosphere of common understanding and respect.

This is a typical western behavior and eastern countries were bereft of this trait until they were influenced by the western values and civilization. However, a minuscule of the people in the due east exhibit such kind of beliefs. People rather want company of   someone close to them when they are under stress or sad.    Even so, men adopt to remain silent when they are facing tough                             times. Information technology is a sign of weakness if men express their helplessness    or if they cry in the face of difficulties. So these  traits " wanting to  be left solitary" and preferring to " remaining silent "  coming from  unlike zones are quite similar though appearing equally different.  When analyzed from eastern betoken of view, I would say, yes,the guys really meant to exist quiet though not alone. As for westerners, responses here likewise confirmed it. You run into, men will be men, everywhere !

Guys have been taught since the dawn of time to bottle things upward and I seriously think it'due south in their DNA now. Just give the guy space but allow him know that when he is ready to talk you will be in that location to mind, and I mean Only listen. Men tend to also hate when we take to dissect everything they say and feel:)

yes, I think so.  Information technology is a off-white warning before they get really heated or shut-downward because they do want to be left alone,  They don't want to verbalize their feelings because it makes them experience bad/sad, they feel guilty, or they're just not an "open-book" like many of us females are.  Walk away from him...give him some time to cool downwardly and reflect...and if he cares he will come to you lot when he is fix to get dorsum on the same page and talk OR when you re-approach him he may be ready to talk.  If it is something personal to him, and has cipher to practice with an argument between yous two, than I would respect his wishes and non pry.

Yes, usually. men are more 'straight' when they tell you something.  When they say 'don't bother me', actually mean but that, at that detail moment!   Woman are different, we are unremarkably, I know Iam, 'emotionally' challenged. and sometimes 'moody' that effects most of the fourth dimension , 'what' I really mean!

No we mean we desire to exist left alone for a while only.
No ane wants to be alone all the time.

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edhan posted 7 years ago

Well, if a guy says he wants to be alone, it simply means cooling off time for him. This may be dissimilar like you but approximate we had a different ways to release our stress or frustration. Just some quiet moments volition assist us to regain. Best not to speak to your guy until he is set up to speak with y'all.

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swilliams posted seven years agone

Yep, they really hateful it. Get out him alone. if you keep bugging him, he will tempest out of the house. It starts at an early age. Aye. Simply exit him alone.

While I agree men are less likely to say one thing and hateful another, there are exceptions. Inquire a guy how he's doing. He volition nigh probable say "not bad, non bad" and the conversation will dry up.
Things are probably not that amazing in his daily life, but information technology's easier than telling every unmarried one of his acquaintances his personal problems. I practice information technology all the fourth dimension, peculiarly with colleagues and people I inappreciably know.

In most cases, guys actually mean what they say. If they want space, they really want it. But in some instances, this is a inkling that they want their partner's caress. Then, nosotros girls must know how to read betwixt the lines.

My "quick" reply is yes...and no...
I've raised 9 children and have experienced the demand to be solitary not merely from the kids from time to time, but too, from my wife.  The thing is, information technology has piece of work both means in order to work.

On the other hand, the desire to be alone sometimes really means...I don't desire to be effectually yous--usually considering I demand for you lot to be quiet and then that I can retrieve about something you said.  Requite me the fourth dimension to do it...men process slower and want to consider their words.

Sometimes, it has nada to exercise with y'all...or about being left lone...I could say I want to be left solitary, but actually what I desire is to be with my brother Dave to "pal" out together...Requite me my man fourth dimension...information technology won't have long and I volition begin thinking about aught but of you.

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Yep. If you lot push they'll simply ignore yous more.

If a guy says leave him alone, that ways exit him lonely. Don't retrieve why he said that, for how long, etc. When one feels better, ane usually calls their loved ones. So yes, he will telephone call you dorsum simply you gotta give him time. It's normal and yep, men mean what they say mostly. So merely go with the words and don't try to analyze that much. We are generally a happy-get-lucky group i remember. Adept luck.

In near cases, it's non whatever different. Like if you had a fight, there needs to be a cooling down time. Then you become back and talk information technology out. 1 thing that creates more than of a thought that at that place is a "problem", is not agreement that women or men are hurt. Just like when you go a cutting, you make clean it and put a rough-and-tumble on information technology. The "cut" is the fight or trouble you're having, the "cleanser" is talking, and the "band-aid" is the knowing that the pain will heal and the bond is stronger. If communicating your feelings in a positive way is difficult for you, it might just be only every bit difficult for them. People always need to talk and have their voice heard, it's just we all need a comforting ear.

Usually if a man says something, he means it. This is where men and women vastly differ. At present, if y'all are speaking of a boy, then the answer could be either. A grown man should not be telling yous to leave him alone if he is in need of an ear to vent to.

Yes, especially when being bellyaching by ridiculous questions.

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Joshtheplumber posted 6 years ago

Absolutely. Simply just for a piddling while. He needs to miss you sometimes earlier he'll deed right. But don't fill your time with other men. If you believe he has other women, you will feel every bit if you are being cheated on regardless of whether you actually are and treat him appropriately. This will tempt him to. Delight terminate this torture. Information technology is possible for a human being to control himself if he knows that no man but him tin accept you. He just needs to come up to grips with the fact that in that location are 2 types of women: you, and everyone else.

If a guy says he wants to exist left lonely he means exactly that. Accept every word a human says seriously.

Virtually of the time we mean exactly what nosotros say.

There are some times... I grant yous... that despite proverb that we want to be alone, we demand someone to fight usa on it.  The emotion needs to be extreme though and you should never anticipate your man not telling you exactly what he ways.  However, on those very rare occasions when , we need someone to stay with us regardless - we aren't in our correct listen.

If you really need to know inquire him if he's certain... twice.  Then tell him when he's ready to talk to call you lot.

I would take them at face up value, especially if it is somebody I wasn't married to. If it was just a friend, I would experience the same way about him, he wouldn't have to worry virtually me. I wouldn't become 2d guessing men similar that. 1 that doesn't want to exist bothered, why frustrate yourself? When there are so many other people who desire to talk to y'all or spend some time. A guy who told me that tin can let the Devil accept his soul to Hell through his nearest exit.

Cristina,
When guys say they want to be left alone, they practice hateful it. I have eight brothers and I know what I'one thousand talking nigh. They need their space simply like united states of america girls. Retrieve well-nigh it, don't you really need plenty of fourth dimension to do the things you demand to do? Well, they practise too. The only difference is that they're not in there primping and putting on brand-upwards with their time. Maybe they're watching or playing sports or something.
Lisa

I can only speak for myself, only when I say leave me lonely I mean it.

Unlike girls, guys are very much straight frontward in what they say. If a guy wants to exist left solitary, consider that he really means information technology. We girls attempt to analyze things too deeply and consider that anybody thinks like us. nosotros ever try to over remember and always put ourselves in the same situation,which creates too much defoliation and dilemma for u.s.a.. Nosotros start predicting and analyzing things,only that's not e'er the case. Leave him lone for few days. After few days endeavor talking to him politely on what is incorrect with him and ask him if you lot can exercise anything to brand him experience good.

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hubsy posted 6 years ago

I really don't remember that guys are hiding what they hateful when they say things. I call back that they commonly mean what they say, unlike girls, so aye they mean exit the a lone. I also think that guys want space a lot more than girls and really detest being stifled.

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Evane posted 6 years ago

Yes, they hateful that. And I am saying that based on feel. Men are firm with their conclusion. Just if you lot know what tin can delight him, and so you might be able to change his mind. It's only about knowing what he loves the most and not.

A lot of guys are non similar that.  We hate existence babied or pitied when we are feeling down.  If a guy says get out him lone, do it for both his and your sake.  The women I have dated practise e'er pull the stunt where they say they want to exist left alone but they do not really mean it.  I volition always be dislocated by this divergence in preference.

I practise non know what they hateful past that but its meliorate to get out them alone when they ask for it.

This depends upon the situation. Every bit far as men are more than straightforward, many of them really mean what they say and their words don't accept whatsoever subconscious contexts. I would recommend you lot taking into account the state of affairs that made the guy tell these words and, of grade, your relationships.

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